We live by Instinct & Intuition - 2

I see so many of my occupation-ally successful girl friends unmarried by the conventional age. Please don't ask me the conventional age but I guess you know what I mean.

I can also see that its a lonely life given our culture of 'no mingling' with strangers, even if strangers are us. We simply don't talk to each other even if we are in an exclusive pub, where singles seek out.

Earlier I had written one small piece on that frustration, today I am thinking of instinct and intuition, if and when she actually meet up good looking strangers.

With age beyond her conventional age of marriage, she become a cynic, mature, logical and risk averse. She questions everything; taking the best decision becomes a necessity for her.

Now that she is stable with her job. Now that she is a bit lonely with only independence by her side (she may refuse to admit this though). She knows that marriage now has to be the option.

But the issue is that all the good men are married.

Her married friends hell-bent in finding her hooked up, will occasionally come up with potential partners. She would meet them but her mature brain will act up from the time she set sight on her prospective boyfriend. She will dissect that somebody until she finds a thousand reasons of no-compatibility. Even his pronunciation or lack of knowledge about a rock band may become a sore point. Also, guys that she meets would be most likely older than her. So they will, very likely, have their own age-related idiosyncrasies, which would not be acceptable.

I may be over-reacting and getting theatrical but the mature brain does get a little mopped up with baggages of logic, rigidity and rationality. She fails to hear her instinct and intuition. She is a bit too far gone from the spiritual world of inner voice.

This is when we need to introspect and drive away logic and listen to inner voice. Any relationship is full of compromises and so we cannot afford to think of the compromises to be made before what instinct is actually saying. It is the true voice. It would never leave you or mis-guide you.

You may not get your instinct kicking-in right in the first meeting. Of course, first meeting cant be called dating. Thats for frustrated people. So the idea is to meet second time and many more times after that. Work hard to get your instinct kicking in. Any logical conclusions should be snuffed out at this moment - in the beginning.

Finally you will get to listen to your instinct and intuition. If instinct says yes, you may think of applying some logic.

It is not true that all the good men are married. It is not true that all the married men are good. In fact, the truth is that there is nobody who is good from every aspect of human behaviour.

Point is 'you have to think instinct, not too much'.

We live by Instinct & Intuition - 1

One of my friends Facebook post said, 'Be with those who help your being'. One immediate repartee is '...that would have been a easier statement if we could read minds, understand telepathy or be God'.

I asked her, 'do you think I do, as in help your being? I think I do. But she may think otherwise. The corollary may be even torturous. She thinks I do but actually I don't. So how do we reconcile. The question comes to whom do we trust to be with them. Confusing right?

It is actually very simple. I follow my instinct, my intuition and leave the rest to the universe, to chance. There is no end to logical analysis in an effort to find out the truth. It can only lead to paralysis, even worse schizophrenia. I may be hyper-acting but I am trying to prove a point here :)

Following your instincts and intuition is a beautiful experience. Its lovely, easy and relieving. They are always right, strong and by your side.

Another complicated Facebook post reads 'The hardest thing about growing up is that you have to do what is right for you even if it means breaking someone's heart. Including your own'. Its amazing that we can think and become so complicated & mind-fucked.

Life is not so complicated as we make of it. In the corollary, it is as complicated as we make it.

Whether you are a kid or on your death bed, you always do what you think is right for you. We are all inherently selfish. Thats the order of the world. Even in flights, you are requested to get the oxygen mask for yourself before helping kids & elders. This is nothing to do with growing up. You always do what feels right for you, what your instinct and intuition tells you.

You think instinct, not too much!!

PAA - More Mature than Progeria !!

PAA is a good film. It is much more than Progeria - the disease.

The film takes a very positive stand on youth and politics. It is just too emotional that Balki has decided to take this stand on politics - the heart of a country. You feel proud to watch the film. It clearly conveys that

• Politics is not a bad profession by itself. It is the people in politics that make it dirty.
• Young politicians can make a difference if they are willing and passionate enough. The mass may be indifferent to politics but they are not blind or stupid. They know how to appreciate truth, genuine-ness and good work.
• Bad politics or rumours need not be tackled negatively. The society understands life and that politicians are also human. So coming out with truth and sincerity is better appreciated

It also turns a very relevant chapter on family support and about today's independent women. It showcases a modern Indian woman, a doctor who takes on life and pregnancy with strength, guts and self belief. It beautifully conveys the importance of the mother whose support was very critical to the daughter's decision.

Apart from the message, one of the first things that excited me is the overall creativity in the film. The witty dialogues, the shots, the use of shadows, placement of lights while shooting and the color & tone of the film. It was a beautiful play of light and darkness.

I specially liked the scene where Abhisekh's MP office, which is well lit, is shot from outside the office cabin through the door. So in the big wide screen you have this door where the light is there. Rest of the screen is dark. It is beautiful.

The second shot that comes to my mind is the scene when Paresh Rawal comes to the hospital and have an argument with Abhisekh. In this scene, Abhisekh is hidden by a pillar and only Paresh Rawal is visible while shouting at Abhisekh. I dont remember any other film using this technique to shoot an active argument between two individuals. Very creative, I would say.

To give credits, I couldnt find the DOP - Director of photography of the film but the cinematographer is PC Sreeram, who also crafted the look of Cheeni Kum. Guys, you have done a great job.